Choosing a first dance song seems like it should be one of the easiest wedding-planning decisions, but once couples realise how many great options there are out there, it can actually start to turn into a bit of a minefield! After all, whichever song you pick will be the one that you define as “yours” for the rest of your lives together…
But don’t worry! With the help of all the other Beat Connection guys and other real brides from our 12 years of playing at weddings, we’ve come up with 3 top tips to ensure that your tune is worth replaying in 50 years time!
1. Find A Genre you both enjoy
Sometimes, opposites really do attract, so it’s possible (and quite likely) that you and your fiancé don’t share the same taste in music! It might be that he just loves jazz and you are bored by it, and that you swear by a rock ballad and he would rather eat his own right arm that sit through a Bon Jovi classic. But don’t lose hope, there’s plenty of other genres that you may both enjoy. How about a bit of swing? Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin are very popular when it comes to the first dances, and their songs are timeless. Songs like “Can’t Take my eye off you (You’re just too good to be true)” or “Sway” are well known classics that can lend themselves to a bit of choreography, if that sort of thing appeals to you.
2. Make sure you and your fiancé agree on what you are trying to achieve with your first dance.
We are all different, and whilst some of us may love the idea of making a big statement with a flash mob surprise choreography that involves the whole wedding party and lasts 30 minutes, others are filled with dread at the thought of even taking a few steps on the dance floor. That’s OK. This is YOUR first dance and you can make it as big or as small a deal as you want it to be. There’s no rules. No one ever said you have to be amazing dancers or entertainers (although some of you may well be), but the first dance is a tradition that is there to mark your first dance as husband and wife, not necessarily to be a big show. Some of the most modest first dances can be the most poignant. Just sit down and decide, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much of a big deal do you want to make it, and if it’s 1, or even zero, that’s OK. For those people, we would recommend a slow love song such as Adele’s “To Make you feel my love” or Ed Sheeran’s “Kiss Me“, or even “Come Live your Life with me” by Peter Cincotti, that are all slow enough not to require actual dancing, but lets you have a little smooch whilst the photographer takes your picture and everyone just goes “aawwww”. We would let you have a verse and chorus on the dancefloor, and then if you wish, we could even ask the rest of the guests to join in with you, and put you out of your misery. But, on the other hand, if you want to make a really big deal of your first dance, you could go with something much more upbeat and ask a reputable dance company to help you create a choreography for just the two of you or even your whole wedding party. In Norwich, we love The Miller Dance Studio where you will be well looked after by Richard and his team.
We have played (and witnessed) great first dance routines to songs like “Simply The Best” by Tina Turner, “We go Together” from The Grease Soundtrack, “She loves you” by The Beatles, “We are family” by Sister Sledge and even “Crazy in Love” by Beyoncé.
This is a picture of Emily and Lee’s First Dance on 11th April 2014, at Park Farm Hotel.
3. Watch out for those lyrics.
When you lose yourself in the music, it’s sometimes easy to overlook the lyrics. A few months ago, we had a couple that asked us to play “Let Her Go” by Passenger as their first dance, as the song was laying when they first kissed and it brought back great memories. Of course we said it was THEIR first dance, THEIR choice and we would play whatever they wanted us, but had they thought about the lyrics? When we mentioned this, they bought realised what they were about to do and decided that, whilst the songs would always be a special song for them, it may not have been the best choice for their first dance.
If you are still in two minds about your first dance, just give me a call and I will be more than happy to have a chat with you.
And here are the TOP 3 most FAQ’s that we receive in the office on the topic of wedding first dances:
1. Will Beat Connection learn and play our first dance live on the night?
Yes! Of course! All we need is 14 days notice.
2. If we don’t want the band to play it live, but we want the original recording, could you play that instead?
yes, of course! You don’t even need to worry about bringing it, we’ll take care of that too.
3. Can you introduce us on the dance floor and then make sure guests join in after a little while?
Quite a lot of you out there seem to want to keep the first dance fairly low key and not make too big a deal of it, which is fine! If you are not looking forward to the idea of dancing for the whole duration of the song whilst everyone’s eyes are on you, don’t panic. We are quite happy to help you out. We can normally introduce the Bride & Groom on the dance floor, let you dance for about one verse and one chorus, make sure the photographer is happy that he (or she) has a few good shots, and then invite your guests to join you on the dance floor.
And remember, if you would like to just pick our brains about any aspect of first dances, do feel free to call the Beat Connection office on 01603 343001 for a free no-obligation chat! See you soon,
Alex and Beat Connection